Loving in Reality

Sometimes "chemistry" isn't love. It's an old story in the body.

Many of us learned to be a helper to feel safe. As adults, we may try to fix partners to feel close. That is a rescue loop.

Real love is steady. Real love tells the truth. Real love repairs.

Try this:

• Say one honest feeling today.

• Make one clear boundary.

• Do one minor repair.

We declare: I do not rescue. I relate.
I choose care, truth, and shared effort. Done.

Here's my upcoming book on this subject, available for download.
When Chemistry Is Childhood: How to Stop Loving Potential and Start Loving in Reality.

Synthesising attachment science, somatic practice, and real-world relationship craft.
Written by Ra'id.

This handbook is for Spirit Warriors, lovers, and leaders who keep falling for potential instead of present reality — and are now choosing to relate in the NOW.

Contents

1. The Pattern

2. The core pattern (in plain words)

3. Two truths that hold at once

4. Why "chemistry" can be a trap

5. Identifying and breaking the pattern of loving potential

6. Attachment science, simply (clarity)

7. Somatic repatterning (practice)

8. Real-world relationship craft (doing)

9. Dating in reality (signals and red flags)

10. The 6–12 month shift

11. Already in deep? (options)

12. 30-Day Stabilise Protocol (in relationship)

13. 45-Day Reset (single, pattern-shifting)

14. Scripts you can use

15. Self-love, practically (re-parenting)

16. 30-Day micro-practice plan

17. On "healing together" vs "heal first"

18. A short self-inquiry

19. Declaration (in your voice)

20. Keep this hand-card (copy/paste)